Getting what you want...

...when you need it but don't expect it is wonderful. Getting what you want when you expect it, don't need it, or both, is empty.

Joy is relative to the condition out of which joy emerged. I think it's possible to stay contented, and graceful, but not joyful.

By the same token, one cannot maintain a sense of shock, embarrassment, or fury indefinitely. They mellow into anger, then hurt, then indifference. Maybe at the end, if you are lucky or you work toward it, will come serenity.